How To Parallel Parent with a Narcissist

A Plan For Parallel Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

Narcissistic Abuse, News By Jan 31, 2024

It is notoriously difficult to raise a child with a narcissistic co-parent because narcissists counter-parent, i.e. they are infamous for being unnecessarily oppositional, antagonistic, and litigious. Moreover narcissistic people tend to relish opportunities to exert post-separation abuse without any concern about the impact it has on their child. These behaviors make cooperative child rearing impossible.

For many survivors this is when a comprehensive parallel parenting plan comes into play, providing structure and minimizing conflict as much as possible. To this end, we have created The Parallel Parenting Playbook: A Plan for Navigating Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex a free guide to help you traverse sharing a child with a narcissistic ex.

How Parallel Parenting Works

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The purpose of a parallel parenting strategy is to reduce parental conflict. This is accomplished by minimizing direct communication and interactions between you and your ex-partner. Limiting direct communication and interaction significantly lowers the chances of disputes, creating a calmer, more stable environment for your child.

The Parallel Parenting Playbook: A Plan for Navigating Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex offers detailed ways to do this successfully and bring a measure of peace to your co-parenting journey.

A Child-Centric Approach

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A well-crafted parallel parenting plan puts the child’s needs and well-being front and center. It establishes clear rules of engagement and creates a more calm environment in which the child can develop free from the burden of parental conflict.

It is essential for parallel parenting plans to be rigorously unambiguous and address the most minute details of the co-parenting relationship, including health care, educational decisions and emotional support, The Parallel Parenting Playbook: A Plan for Navigating Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex outlines how to make sure the child’s needs are not overshadowed by parental disputes.

A Boundary Setting Tool

The Parallel Parenting Playbook

The Parallel Parenting Playbook: A Plan for Navigating Co-Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex guides you through the process of establishing structured, purposeful communication. It highlights how clear, concise exchanges focused solely on the child’s welfare can stave off conflicts. The guide will help you identify where you can set boundaries with yourself and assert them in the context of parallel parenting with a narcissistic ex without locking horns.

The beauty of parallel parenting is that it can serve as an important lesson for children. It’s a blueprint for role modeling valuable life skills, including conflict resolution, respect for differences, and healthy boundary setting.

Legal Framework Integration

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The steps in our parallel parenting guide can be seamlessly integrated into legal agreements to ensure compliance and provide a clear reference in case of disputes. It’s a tool to help parents and children enjoy peace of mind. Parents learn how to regain a sense of autonomy as they master the art of parallel parenting, leading to personal growth and greater confidence in the role they play in their child’s life.

One-On-One Support

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People raising children with narcissistic ex-partner’s face unique challenges. Book a coaching session for one-on-one support and guidance in establishing a comprehensive parallel parenting plan. We provide a safe space where you will experience compassion, insight, and acceptance while receiving practical tools to create a healthy parenting architecture for you and your child.

Download The Parallel Parenting Playbook

The Parallel Parenting Playbook: A Plan For Navigating Co-Parenting With A Narcissistic Ex

Creating a comprehensive parallel parenting plan is a proactive step towards cultivating a nurturing environment for the child or children you are raising with a narcissistic person. It can reduce your exposure to their harassment, manage conflicts, and help you focus on what’s important: the best interests of your child.

Download your free copy. It’s an invaluable resource that will give you with clarity and practical ways to make harmony and stability possible for separated families.


Manya Wakefield is a recovery coach specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy and coercive trauma. Her expertise has been featured in publications such as Newsweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and Huffington Post. In 2019, she launched the social impact platform Narcissistic Abuse Rehab, building a global audience through human rights advocacy. The same year, she published the book ‘Are You In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship,’ which is used in domestic violence recovery groups around the world. In 2020, Manya developed The Coercive Control Legislation Global Database. She is also the host of The Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast, which is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon.